Suspecting that a partner might be cheating on you and the dance of hurt and uncertainty that ensues can be one of the most upsetting and challenging times of your life.
If you think your partner is cheating on you, it’s a good idea to find out as much as you can before confronting them.
A professional private investigator with years of experience in marital investigations will know the ins and outs of the signs of cheating to look for in a potentially unfaithful partner. They will also be able to guide you on what evidence you may or may not be able to gather depending on what personal information you have and your partner’s professional background.
You have a right to know whether your partner is being unfaithful. However, because of the highly sensitive and emotional nature of these situations, it’s a good idea to assess your reasoning before jumping to conclusions and deciding to hire a private investigator.
Try reading through these signs that your partner may be cheating on you and see if you come up with a significant checklist or if there is room for misunderstanding. Some of the more subtle signs can easily be missed.
Signs of Infidelity To Look Out For
- Emotional distance or sudden bursts of criticism or cruelty. An unfaithful spouse or partner with guilt on their mind might even try to accuse you of cheating to take the focus off of them.
- Unusual working hours. This can include a sudden change of schedule with no or insufficient explanation.
- New, unexpected friends in their circle.
- Their friends’ behaviour changes. Chances are their friends know more than you do and the awkwardness or guilt they feel in your presence affects the way they come across, particularly if they are suddenly less friendly and more distant.
- Unexplained expenses.
- Unexplained periods of absence.
- They’re very up-to-date on your schedule. Unfaithful partners make every effort not to get caught, so they have to know the time slots they have available. Equally, they might suddenly hate surprise visits or sudden changes of plans.
- Increased affection or attention towards you. A classic sign of feeling guilty and trying to hide their actions by overcompensating in some areas. Some red flags may by if your partner suddenly starts to show more frequent signs of affection, gifts or increased libido.
- Increased vanity, irritability or cruel behaviour. All couples go through rough patches and dry spells, but sometimes behavioural patterns emerge that corroborates a lot of your reasonings and suspicions. For example, attacking you over inconsequential matters or excessively personal topics designed to wound.
- Sudden changes to their appearance. This can include spending more time on grooming, new clothing, different hairstyles, weight fluctuations and new jewellery.
- Leaving the marital bed. Even for seemingly innocent reasons such as sickness or intolerance of another’s sleeping habits, leaving a shared bed may indicate a growing emotional distance.
- Increased awareness and paranoia surrounding their phone. This can include constantly having their phone on them all the time, having it on silent, controlling your access to it, hiding their activity on social media, new security settings and only sporadically answering text messages and calls.
- Changes in interests, hobbies and pet peeves.
- Sudden inability to reach or contact them.
A full list of signs that your partner is having an affair can be provided by a private matrimonial investigator. However, if you have noticed a regular occurrence of any of the main signs of infidelity above and you find yourself needing to find out the truth, it may be wise to pick up the phone and discuss your worries with a professional.
Remember: hiring a PI to help you find out of your spouse or partner is cheating on you does not necessarily mean you are correct. In many cases, it’s simply best to know rather than stay in ignorance or agonising doubt. Equally, you might be wrong and have absolutely nothing to worry about, though consulting a marriage and family therapist might be next on your list of possible approaches.
To put your mind at rest, have a chat with a professional investigator with the years of expertise and sympathy you need to discuss your options.